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This week’s concern is about connections as well as exactly how they in shape into the context of long-lasting travel.

I believed I may just pop with a question.

I’m currently in a connection as well as have been for over a year, however my heart is set on long term travel at the end of this year. I am certainly going to go- i’m not sure if he will come as well though. I have discussed it before, however I don’t want to push it. only issue is that I feel extremely selfish for doing this. What would you perform in this situation?

I believe you already understand the response to this.

Most long-lasting travelers I understand spent years dreaming, planning, as well as saving money before really taking the plunge as well as leaving on their travels.  If your sweetheart isn’t doing any type of of those things now, less than a year before your departure date, when is he going to?

The truth that you’ve barely even discussed this with your sweetheart is quite telling.

So that answers that question.  But is your connection salvageable?

Keeping up a connection when one partner is traveling long-lasting is an incredibly challenging thing to do.  I would only suggest doing so if you have an extremely strong relationship, have phenomenal communication skills, as well as are planning a future together.

If you have a connection like that, then by all means, opt for it.  But if you’re not rather there, staying together will cause much more pain in the long run.

My message to you: It is much better to have a peaceful, amicable breakup now than a messy, drawn-out breakup while you’re countless miles apart.

Please don’t feel guilty — you’re not selfish.  You’re not married.  You don’t have kids.  Though things may be challenging in the beginning, everybody will heal from this.  You owe it to yourself to go after your dreams.  You don’t want to be on your deathbed believing about the dream trip that slipped out from below your fingers.

I have the feeling that you composed to me since part of you is prepared to end your connection with your boyfriend.  I provide you permission.  Let this be your blessing.

Wishing you all the very best of luck in whatever you choose to do.

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